Is it that wrong as a thong fetishist to admire play with a family members thongs?

thongLx

Active member
Bit of a controversial topic here but here goes so as a forum of thousands of us thong lovers I wondering what peoples personal boundaries are on this topic. We all love thongs then you suddenly notice that your Sister, Mum/Mom, cousin, MIL, SIL is a thong wearer. Is it fair game to take an interest how ever you do it whether admire, perv wank with, sniff how ever you like your thongs. Is that nasty and wrong or just for the love of thongs that morals go out the window, love to hear all ypir thoughts on this issue
 

ThatOneGuy01

Well-known member
Interesting question, I think morals are really subjective so it is up to the individual to decide at what point it goes too far. I know I had a lot of conflicting thoughts and feelings when I found out my sister started wearing thongs. At first, I was honestly put off that she wore such sexy undies and thought that it might ruin my interest in thongs. Overtime, however, I thought it was kind of hot that she wore thongs/g-strings and I grew to admire them from time to time. Morally, I've always been conflicted about admiring her thongs but I guess I've found ways to justify it. I guess for me I just see it as taking an opportunity to enjoy my fetish and not about some kind of incestuous attraction. I guess our intense fetishes can take us to some weird places and make us do things we never thought we would do. It can definitely be a delicate balance to get your jollies and still be able to believe that you are living a decent, moral life.
 

thongLx

Active member
Interesting question, I think morals are really subjective so it is up to the individual to decide at what point it goes too far. I know I had a lot of conflicting thoughts and feelings when I found out my sister started wearing thongs. At first, I was honestly put off that she wore such sexy undies and thought that it might ruin my interest in thongs. Overtime, however, I thought it was kind of hot that she wore thongs/g-strings and I grew to admire them from time to time. Morally, I've always been conflicted about admiring her thongs but I guess I've found ways to justify it. I guess for me I just see it as taking an opportunity to enjoy my fetish and not about some kind of incestuous attraction. I guess our intense fetishes can take us to some weird places and make us do things we never thought we would do. It can definitely be a delicate balance to get your jollies and still be able to believe that you are living a decent, moral life.
Thanks for your imput there ThatOneGuy this is exactly what I was questioning so for me it was the same except my Mum was an everyday thong wearer back when I was growing up, weird, why does she wear thongs? admiration I suppose all sorts of feelings but ultimately I had thongs to play with and morals kinda went out the window
 

JCCW

Member
Personally, I’m weirded out by mom’s underwear but not sister as much. It’s an age thing for me for a lot of it. I don’t enjoy the idea of seeing my friend’s mom’s thongs because they’re so much older than I am and that grosses me out. However, mom’s in their twenties are super hot to see thongs from cause that’s more around my age. It’s also why I don’t have as much a problem with sisters because, generally, they’re gonna be a similar age to me. Though, as always, I still feel a bit creeped out because I find thongs sexy, and I don’t want to see a family member’s thongs because I don’t want to find a family member sexy. Natural inclination to not find incest sexy. However, my natural inclination towards libertarianism also says “to each their own” for most kink stuff, so despite my personal feelings, go for it dude.
 

thongLx

Active member
Personally, I’m weirded out by mom’s underwear but not sister as much. It’s an age thing for me for a lot of it. I don’t enjoy the idea of seeing my friend’s mom’s thongs because they’re so much older than I am and that grosses me out. However, mom’s in their twenties are super hot to see thongs from cause that’s more around my age. It’s also why I don’t have as much a problem with sisters because, generally, they’re gonna be a similar age to me. Though, as always, I still feel a bit creeped out because I find thongs sexy, and I don’t want to see a family member’s thongs because I don’t want to find a family member sexy. Natural inclination to not find incest sexy. However, my natural inclination towards libertarianism also says “to each their own” for most kink stuff, so despite my personal feelings, go for it dude.
Thanks for that reply JJCW Tbh I think most people have your thoughts on this, I think with me personally I was so young when I started using them I never really thought that much into it, also with a thong fetish growing more and more so, I just sort if saw thongs and went for it not much else intended, I like what you say about 'each to their own in kink shit as I've always had that attitude and wonder why others don't find thongs as hot as I do, then I remember someone said on here if a cute girl has flip flops on I don't notice it where a foot guy would be all over it. Also age wise I've always fancied older women but they have to be top grade fit and when my Mum was in her late 30s early 40s she was smoking so I guess that made it easier for me, I've never had s sister so wouldn't know about that but blatantly knowing me I'd be all.over their thongs too if I could lol.
 

Howardlawrence69

Active member
Bit of a controversial topic here but here goes so as a forum of thousands of us thong lovers I wondering what peoples personal boundaries are on this topic. We all love thongs then you suddenly notice that your Sister, Mum/Mom, cousin, MIL, SIL is a thong wearer. Is it fair game to take an interest how ever you do it whether admire, perv wank with, sniff how ever you like your thongs. Is that nasty and wrong or just for the love of thongs that morals go out the window, love to hear all ypir thoughts on this issue
Personally, I stay clear. That just goes against all of my morals and frankly I find It disgusting.
 
Bit of a controversial topic here but here goes so as a forum of thousands of us thong lovers I wondering what peoples personal boundaries are on this topic. We all love thongs then you suddenly notice that your Sister, Mum/Mom, cousin, MIL, SIL is a thong wearer. Is it fair game to take an interest how ever you do it whether admire, perv wank with, sniff how ever you like your thongs. Is that nasty and wrong or just for the love of thongs that morals go out the window, love to hear all ypir thoughts on this issue
Hi, going to attempt a serious answer to your question:

If you're a thong fetishist, you are going to notice them regardless of who is wearing them, because your brain is hard-wired to notice them. I wouldn't give yourself too hard of a time if - for example - you find yourself staring a bit because you notice your relative has - for example - a whale tail showing. You are going to be drawn to noticing it, and that's OK, that doesn't in itself mean you want to have sex with your mum, so you can relax a bit about that aspect, it doesn't make you Oedipus! :)

However, yes, for me there are clear boundaries for comfort and consent as to what you do with that natural instinct. Everyone is going to have different attitudes when it comes to voyerism, and I imagine this board will have wildly different views on this. But when it concerns family members, you're way more personally invested than you are with a stranger, so purely from a pragmatic perspective, I think you need to train yourself to mentally over-ride the impulse to ogle. And if a family member caught you perving over them it would freak them out, and not unreasonably, so that's probably enough of an incentive to train your brain not to stare too much once you've noticed!

So I think it's fine to accept that if you're a fetishist, that experiencing this fetish 'in the wild' in any context is going to trigger something involuntary in your brain, and that in itself is nothing to be ashamed about. But it is within your gift to mentally over-ride that and choose not to 'enjoy' that fetish for purposes of gratification (because it's a family member), as much for your own sake of potential consequence as anything else.

Personal sidebar: I sort of think this is the gold standard for fetish appreciation anyway, even outside of your family. If you see your fetish in the wild, enjoy it right up to the point where it's possible for anyone else to feel uncomfortable about it. As soon as you find yourself ogling unnaturally, you've probably enjoyed it slightly *too* much to the point where someone else might feel uncomfortable about it, and that has the potential to reflect badly upon you, as well as being uncomfortable to them. But as I say, people will have different views on that.

However I think there's a clear and unambiguous line when it comes to escalating that and actively going through their underwear draw, let alone what you do with it thereafter. Voyeurism is one thing, but that'd be a clear crossing of a boundary IMO. Just because it happens in porn doesn't mean it's cool IRL, and just think about the consequences if you got caught (spoiler: it is HIGHLY unlikely to end up how that scene usually plays out in porn... and not in a good way!), so it's just not worth it. Like I say, you can't help what your brain is drawn towards, and there's no need to feel too bad about that, but you can help what you do about it.

I make no judgement of you or anyone else in the above btw, just my opinion.
 

thongLx

Active member
Hi, going to attempt a serious answer to your question:

If you're a thong fetishist, you are going to notice them regardless of who is wearing them, because your brain is hard-wired to notice them. I wouldn't give yourself too hard of a time if - for example - you find yourself staring a bit because you notice your relative has - for example - a whale tail showing. You are going to be drawn to noticing it, and that's OK, that doesn't in itself mean you want to have sex with your mum, so you can relax a bit about that aspect, it doesn't make you Oedipus! :)

However, yes, for me there are clear boundaries for comfort and consent as to what you do with that natural instinct. Everyone is going to have different attitudes when it comes to voyerism, and I imagine this board will have wildly different views on this. But when it concerns family members, you're way more personally invested than you are with a stranger, so purely from a pragmatic perspective, I think you need to train yourself to mentally over-ride the impulse to ogle. And if a family member caught you perving over them it would freak them out, and not unreasonably, so that's probably enough of an incentive to train your brain not to stare too much once you've noticed!

So I think it's fine to accept that if you're a fetishist, that experiencing this fetish 'in the wild' in any context is going to trigger something involuntary in your brain, and that in itself is nothing to be ashamed about. But it is within your gift to mentally over-ride that and choose not to 'enjoy' that fetish for purposes of gratification (because it's a family member), as much for your own sake of potential consequence as anything else.

Personal sidebar: I sort of think this is the gold standard for fetish appreciation anyway, even outside of your family. If you see your fetish in the wild, enjoy it right up to the point where it's possible for anyone else to feel uncomfortable about it. As soon as you find yourself ogling unnaturally, you've probably enjoyed it slightly *too* much to the point where someone else might feel uncomfortable about it, and that has the potential to reflect badly upon you, as well as being uncomfortable to them. But as I say, people will have different views on that.

However I think there's a clear and unambiguous line when it comes to escalating that and actively going through their underwear draw, let alone what you do with it thereafter. Voyeurism is one thing, but that'd be a clear crossing of a boundary IMO. Just because it happens in porn doesn't mean it's cool IRL, and just think about the consequences if you got caught (spoiler: it is HIGHLY unlikely to end up how that scene usually plays out in porn... and not in a good way!), so it's just not worth it. Like I say, you can't help what your brain is drawn towards, and there's no need to feel too bad about that, but you can help what you do about it.

I make no judgement of you or anyone else in the above btw, just my opinion.
Woow thanks for that long reply Quills, its definitely a mind field to think about, and I think you hit some points there right on the head, I think a young me just compartmented my brain between my love of thongs and not who was wearing them, I never sneakily voyeurd her though did enjoy checking her out getting dressed or walking about in thongs as she was quite open. To me a thongs a thong but that's definitely bot always the best way to think
 

thongLx

Active member
Not sure if theres a right and wrong answer to this but I guess when I was at school ot was around year 8-10 that girls started making the switch, I guess having a mom or sister already a thong wearer made it easier for girls, I rekon they do it as a mix if being in the in crowed, not wanting vpl, wanting to feel older and girls with bigger butts probably found them more comfortable for the whole full knicker wedgie problem bigger girls complain of
 
Woow thanks for that long reply Quills, its definitely a mind field to think about, and I think you hit some points there right on the head, I think a young me just compartmented my brain between my love of thongs and not who was wearing them, I never sneakily voyeurd her though did enjoy checking her out getting dressed or walking about in thongs as she was quite open. To me a thongs a thong but that's definitely bot always the best way to think
No worries at all, sorry for the splurge of text!! 😂 I’d intended to write, like, two lines and ended up going down a rambling stream of consciousness… asking questions about morality and sexuality is just a great thing to do though… I’ve been a practicing member of the kink community for nearly 30 years. So I’m very protective of kinksters and their fetishes, as it can be a beautiful thing. But that means that we, as a community, have to make sure our houses are in order. As the best way to push back against the kink-shamers is through demonstrating that a) we understand way more about human sexuality than they do, and b) we’re kind, compassionate and decent people who also understand the boundaries of consent…. Although it’s also ok to be a bit of a perv and still be entirely in sync with the above. Context is everything!! So good for you for asking the question and exploring your own thoughts, feelings and instincts. That’s an incredibly healthy approach, as long as you know how to apply critical thinking to the answers you’re getting, which of course includes mine! 😀
 

UncleBob1954

Active member
Bit of a controversial topic here but here goes so as a forum of thousands of us thong lovers I wondering what peoples personal boundaries are on this topic. We all love thongs then you suddenly notice that your Sister, Mum/Mom, cousin, MIL, SIL is a thong wearer. Is it fair game to take an interest how ever you do it whether admire, perv wank with, sniff how ever you like your thongs. Is that nasty and wrong or just for the love of thongs that morals go out the window, love to hear all ypir thoughts on this issue
Over the years, I’ve played with, worn & jacked off with all of the above mentioned panties
 

Pantyman

Active member
Family I havent had many that were available (no sisters, cousins etc lived far away). I have worn my brother’s wifes panties a few times, have 2-3 pairs. Not looking to make that a habit unless they both arent home, super low risk. She has mostly thongs too!
 
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