- What did she look like (age, build, hair color, race etc.)?
At the time, she had long, dyed red hair and a kinda goth look, dark makeup, a couple of facial piercings. Amazing figure, slim waist but very curvy. These days she's her natural dark brown hair, and has changed her look to be a lot more conservative unless she's going out.
- How did you know her (friend, co-worker, acquaintance)?
We lived together for a couple of years at university, and we became close friends pretty much right away so we spent a lot of time together. We met up often during the years after, too, and we're still good friends, though she's married with kids now and is really focused on family and career stuff, and we live quite far apart so we only get to hang out a couple of times a year.
Usually plain t-shirts or a tank top, with either tight jeans, or baggy black cargo pants. In both cases I know she struggled to find a pair that fit well because she had a slim waist but really thick thighs. She was self-conscious about her legs so she wouldn't wear skirts often. Nowadays she's a mom and she dresses more conservatively, sweaters and leggings, sometimes loose, flowy dresses, nothing particularly figure-hugging or showy.
- What kind of thongs did she wear?
Most of the time she wore red or black g-strings, or sometimes more of a stringy, triangle thong. That seemed to be pretty much her day-to-day wear. She had a few more colourful lacy ones but I didn't see them often - I just knew she had them because we shared a spare room on our floor of the house and we both hung our laundry in there. She wasn't shy about leaving her underwear around in that way.
- Did you think she was slipping on purpose or by accident?
I don't think it was on purpose, but it was pretty much always visible, especially in jeans. We spent a lot of time together; she'd be sat next to me on the couch or studying at the end of my bed at some point most days, we also shared a kitchen. I'd say it was always a result of the way she was sitting or leaning over for stuff, rather than being pulled up high so it was purposefully on show. That said, I don't think she ever really did anything to prevent it from happening, either.
- Would she try to hide her slips/keep her thong covered (always adjusting her clothes vs not really caring)?
She didn't seem to pay any attention to it at all, unless her pants were uncomfortable or literally falling down. At most, I think she'd angle herself away from other people so nobody would be sat behind her, but I think that's more just because she was quite a nervous, shy person.
- Did you or anyone else alert her to her struggles (and was she embarrassed)?
I never said anything to her. We were close, we spent at least a little time together pretty much every day, the idea of making her feel awkward or looked-at in that way would've just been a bad idea. I was happy to look, and that's all. There's no way she could have been totally unaware, it just didn't matter. She wasn't a super sociable person and didn't really have many girlfriends either, so there weren't really many people around to tell/see anyway, just a couple of other housemates she didn't really 'click' with and didn't hang out with much.
- Did she ever comment on the "problem" herself?
She mentioned that her mom used to tell her off for buying/wearing thongs in the first place, but never really mentioned anything about letting them show. She came from a pretty conservative family, and was definitely the 'rebellious/difficult daughter' stereotype, so I guess the way she dressed kinda played into that. Other than that I don't think it ever came up in conversation, other than occasionally complaining about how her pants never fit properly.